megalophobia
Yes, I think I maybe have that.
The very large airplanes may be safer than small ones as to stability and strength, but along with the size come layers and layers of complexity, so that the pilot doesn't know - cannot possibly, humanly know - everything that can go wrong in all possible conditions. Also, because the owners tend to have a degree of hubris, simply from owning such big, impressive machinery, plus, the things are so expensive to operate, every minute's delay make the $$-counters squeal, they're less careful about sending them up in bad weather. But the really significant thing is: when they do crash, they usually kill everyone on board, and there are
a lot of people on board.
(I know this from watching old Mayday episodes.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mayday_(Canadian_TV_series) which, of course, is what prompted the question)
As to the buildings, I can think of many reasons not to be in one.
The horrible floating (and occasionally sinking) hotels, not even tempted: they looked horrible to me even before the pandemic stranded them in foreign ports for weeks.
I love that picture, Toucana! It actually looks a lot like the one that keeled over.