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"Why People Feel Bored or Break Up" after marriage

PostPosted: September 21st, 2019, 12:32 am
by Biosapien
In continuation to my previous post called "Why people fall in love" I am propounding this current topic "Why people loose interest or attraction towards each other in a long-term relationship or after marriage". The objective of my previous post was to understand what drives someone to fall in love and the now I am trying to understand why so much quarrelling and reticent predominates in the long run.

1) Why the exuberant turned into lethargic ?
2) Are they saturated with their own life and thought processing?
3) What brings the suffering into their life - is it responsibility in the name of performing routine household chores or sitting and working in front of the computer through out a year?
4) I also observed many of the people have adopted their smart phone as a new life partner, which means they spend most of their time with the inanimate smartphone rather than with their life partner. Technology helps people to make their life simple for and one and complex for others and because of which I do believe is a source for introducing gap between life partner who spend their life in the same room.

Looking forward to hear more from you all

Re: "Why People Feel Bored or Break Up" after marriage

PostPosted: September 30th, 2019, 4:10 am
by -1-
You're right, Biosapien. It is filling in the gap that makes and / or breaks a relationship.

There is not enough filling of the gap in the beginning -- excitement mounts and each time a gap is filled, the more you want to fill a gap again.

But after a while there is too much gap filling, there are no interesting gaps left to fill. Boredom sets in, the excitement wanes, and the filler never waxes any more.

This can only be helped by introducing new gaps, which will again appear exciting, new, and ready for mutual joy of filling a gap.

Smart phones are excellent communication devices for filling in a gap in a person's otherwise empty, meaningless and pointless life.

Re: "Why People Feel Bored or Break Up" after marriage

PostPosted: September 30th, 2019, 5:00 pm
by A_Seagull
-1- ยป September 30th, 2019, 8:10 pm wrote:You're right, Biosapien. It is filling in the gap that makes and / or breaks a relationship.

There is not enough filling of the gap in the beginning -- excitement mounts and each time a gap is filled, the more you want to fill a gap again.

But after a while there is too much gap filling, there are no interesting gaps left to fill. Boredom sets in, the excitement wanes, and the filler never waxes any more.

This can only be helped by introducing new gaps, which will again appear exciting, new, and ready for mutual joy of filling a gap.

Smart phones are excellent communication devices for filling in a gap in a person's otherwise empty, meaningless and pointless life.


I don't have a smart phone; this is clearly a gap in my life. No wonder I suffer :(

Re: "Why People Feel Bored or Break Up" after marriage

PostPosted: October 3rd, 2019, 11:31 pm
by Biosapien
Thank you for your response. My perception on prolonging boredom is because couples don't engage in doing common things or spending time together and even if they did, they are likely to be end up in quarrelling. When the couples are far away from each other they often talk about romantic stuff and they really longing for each other, the moment when they came contacting each other they throw themselves into the routine stuff.

If boredom is something promising outcome of married life "Why people still prefer it"?